Learn how to manifest and start living your best life today

According to some, this pure psychological ‘magic’ isn’t just luck or coincidence. Instead, it’s what’s known as manifesting – and there’s a long list of books, essays, workshops and retreats dedicated to the skill of reprogramming your subconscious beliefs in order to make things happen.

“It’s basically the ability to draw in anything you desire into your life. It’s defined as the ability to create the exact life that you want,” says emotional health advisor Roxie Nafousi (roxienafousi.com), who hosts sell-out manifesting workshops in London.

Describing it as an “inner power”, Nafousi discovered manifesting when she was at “one of her rock bottoms”, having battled with depression throughout her 20s and been on a long journey of self-development.

“It was often a case of two steps forwards and one step back. I was feeling utterly fed up and at a loss as to how to really change my life. My best friend told me I should listen to a podcast on manifesting, which led me to research the practice,” she recalls. “Within a week, I met my partner, a year later I had my baby boy, and two years on my life is unrecognisable in all the best ways.”

Rhonda Bryne’s 2006 self-help book The Secret – and the associated film – catapulted the idea of the ‘law of attraction’ from a niche interest into a mainstream concept, with views and teachings from a wide range of spiritual practitioners. The movement posits that setting goals, learning from negativity and tapping into positive thinking can help you to achieve everything you want in life.

Today’s millennial manifestors take Bryne’s ideas one step further though, using tools and therapy exercises to help unlock their self-worth and access their most authentic, vulnerable and magnetic selves.

“The most important thing people should know is that true manifestation is not just the law of attraction; you cannot simply visualise or think of something you want and then wait for it to happen,” says Nafousi. “Most people confuse the two concepts and that’s why they are often unsuccessful at it. We do not manifest from our thoughts alone; we manifest from our subconscious beliefs about what we deserve.”

Intuitive manifesting is all about working on your confidence and self-esteem, says Nafousi – concepts that are rooted in traditional psychology and widely used in CBT practices. Although the idea of picturing your dream life might sound like spiritual woo-woo, it’s a type of psychological skill we can all practice and master, she says.

“Everything is energy – thoughts, emotions, feelings – and people who manifest believe energy attracts like energy. To put it simply, we attract to our lives whatever we put out. When we learn how to raise our energetic frequency and learn the secret to manifesting, we can attract anything we want.”

So how can you harness the skill for yourself? “Work daily on self-worth and self-love,” says Nafousi. “A great way to do this is to practice gratitude – a gratitude journal every evening is a great place to start. You could also listen to positive affirmations [Nafousi has some available on her website specifically designed to help clients manifest] or vision board your future.

“I recommend writing regular love letters to yourself – it’s a really simple tip that really works. Start to take care of yourself and say no to things you don’t want to do.” Talking to yourself lovingly, exercising and nourishing your body with the right foods are all part of learning to love the skin you’re in, she adds.

Success mentor Sara Longoria (saralongoria.com) has taught manifestation to hundreds of individuals and companies around the world. She uses her background in biomedical sciences and neurophysiology to help people tap into their inner power through a practice she calls ‘rapid manifestation’.

Her approach combines manifesting positive affirmations with a practice called emotional freedom technique (EFT). Sometimes described as a psychological version of acupuncture, it involves repetitive tapping on various areas of the face and body – such as the side of the eyes, eyebrows, collarbone and under the arms – believed to be end-points of major meridians (energy channels within the body).

“As you move through the tapping points, say exactly how you feel. This can take some getting used to,” says Longoria. You could start by tapping your meridian points three to seven times, repeating negative thoughts, before tapping through a positive round of uplifting phrases. “Anyone can use it, that is the beauty of the method,” says Longoria. “It is easy and available to us all.”

Nafousi says, ultimately, manifesting is all about allowing yourself to believe and trust in the universe and its magic. “When you learn to manifest, you realise that you have full control over your life,” she adds. What could be better than that?

Unfortunately, almost always there will be something standing in your way to success. This shouldn’t scare you, this is just part of the whole manifestation process.

Keep an eye out for these three most common manifestation blocks:

Negative beliefs/mindset

If you are in a bad place emotionally, you need to first get yourself into the right mindset before you can successfully manifest anything. You can’t be focusing on negativity and expect to attract good things into your life. So take some time to practice self-care. Try meditation and different stress-relief techniques.

Toxic people

When you are working on manifesting your dream you need to make sure no one is holding you back. People who don’t believe in you, always criticize you and/or complain about everything are blocks that will keep you from doing your best.

Timing

Sometimes you just need to be patient. Everything you want will happen. but it will happen at the right time and for the right reasons. So if something isn’t happening for you right now, it doesn’t mean it never will. Keep believing and keep working on your goal.

Remember to be patient and banish doubt

If exercising your imagination feels difficult to do, perhaps due to a life where the imagination has played servant to your logical faculties, be infinitely patient with your attempts at imagining your wish fulfilled. Cultivate infinite patience with yourself, never being dissatisfied with the speed or the manner in which your intentions are manifesting.

When you banish all doubt in favor of faith, there’s nothing more powerful on this planet. If you truly understand the ability to manifest, you realise you can control the speed at which change occurs in your life.

Henry David Thoreau said: “[You] will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Thoreau suggests that the universe will begin to conspire with you to fulfill your wishes. This is the law of co-creation.

When you trust in yourself, you are not looking for solutions to your life problems in someone or something outside yourself. Instead, you remain in a state of trusting. Then, in a trustworthy manner, you can proceed to attract the energy to you that provides the solution.

Align yourself with the feeling of the wish fulfilled

When you put aside your doubts, you can begin to imagine in both mind and body what it will feel like to have your wishes fulfilled. Albert Einstein made this astute observation: “Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.” Reprogram your imagination to take you everywhere you are brave enough to envision.