Brenda Shankey shares the secret of how to '˜Be Fabulous' and have it all

Running the hugely successful Jason Shankey grooming company with her husband, Brenda was overworked, stressed and not sleeping.

It was around this time Brenda found out about mindfulness - a technique encouraging people to make time for themselves and believe in themselves.

Mindfulness has changed Brenda’s life so dramatically that she now runs regular classes in Belfast and this week launched her first ever book - Be Fabulous.

And Brenda returned to her native Londonderry for the official launch.

“Mental health is something people are afraid to talk about,” said Brenda, “but 80% of all illnesses are caused by stress. To look at me you would have thought that I had it all.

“I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety in my life, When I crashed from the burn out I realised there was something wrong with my life. I said to myself that there had to be more than running on this hamster wheel.

“When I burned out I tried to overwork to escape.”

Brenda went to her GP who recommended that she attend meditation.

“Initially I thought it was a load of rubbish,” said Brenda. “I didn’t want to sit cross legged meditating, but I stuck at it, because when I start something I always see it through.

“I learned that to achieve success in life you have to love and accept the person that you are. You have to believe in yourself and follow your gut.

“You are the person who is 100% in control of your life. If you sit still for a few moments every day, all of the answers are there. If you stay away from bad energy only good things will happen to you.”

Brenda says that she has now learned that her worst times were her best thing.

“My husband couldn’t fix me,” she said. “My children couldn’t fix me. My dad couldn’t fix me. I was the only person who could. I had to learn who I was.”

She said women from Londonderry “are always looking after everyone else”.

“You have to look after yourself first. You are the only person who can make your life amazing, so remove the chaos,” she said.

Brenda decided to write a book that could be downloaded on to phones.

“We are all so busy today aren’t we,” she said. “But we all have time for our phones.”

The book has 14 chapters covering morning meditation, evening meditation, and talking to yourself positively, coping with hardships and busting stress. The book can be downloaded from CDbaby.com and mindcool.com